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10 Holiday Sober Savers 2004
1.) BEGIN NOW !!! Don't save your shopping, decorating, cooking, wrapping, and cleaning for the last minute. That is too much pressure for anyone. This is the year to be organized, so you'll have time to enjoy the season in sobriety. If you can't get something done, just let it go with no regrets. 2.) Attend your meetings Start preparing NOW. 'Tis the season! Don't let social invitations distract you from recovery.You'll find a meeting invaluable when you happen to come up against a trigger or some craving. If you start feeling down, or really don't feel like going to a meeting--THIS,is when you really do need to go. That hour of your time may save your life. 3.) Don't take on new commitments. It just isn't a good idea. Let someone take care of you this year.If asked to do something you may find too stressful simply say, "I'm sorry. I'm doing some developmental work and I'm just too busy to give the attention it deserves..." Making Christmas dinner for 50 people or example, will not help you relax and stay focused on your recovery. 4.) Before planning the family reunions To be sure you can count on understanding from your family,express your need to celebrate Christmas quietly at home this year. Perhaps you could visit with family and friends before or after the holiday party to share a dessert and catch up on the family news together. 5) Honor the day Family reunions may stir up resentment. Be aware that emotions are more sensitive during holidays. We all have high expectations that can't be met . Family reunions stir up old feelings like jealousy, resentment .Don't let them creep thru--even when you see cousin Pete who still owes you $500.handing out 20$ dollar bills.You've waited this long, what's 1 more day ? Enjoy your family, enjoy feeling gratitude for your life, and the sobriety to enjoy it. 6.) When you must attend Select carefully the events you will attend.Use your own transportation Consider the location, people who will be there and the how much a part they are of your problem.Bring someone who supports your soberity Work out a signal,just in case, you start getting a familiar feeling in your gut.(you know that means trouble)Pull on your ear 'ala Carol Burnett or fold your arms and wink.Thank your host say goodnight and get the heck out of there 7.) Count your blessings Take the time to compare how your life changed from last year, what you thought this year was going to be ( if you didn't get sober) and just take a moment to dream what next year will be , if you stay on the path Count your blessings ,say a prayer of gratitude and tell the people on your list how thankful you are they are in your life.(this not only reinforces your commitment, but also makes them feel great .) 8.) Use your numbers When someone is newly sober , often they will need to be in the company of other's in recovery.Sometimes just being in contact will serve to reinforce the determination you have to remain sober.Use the numbers you have collected from the people in the" rooms ".They won't be bothered ,in fact it's more then likely you will provide reinforcement for them also.Even if they don't know they need it !! 9.) Have a plan Don't leave large blocks of time unaccounted for ,take a look at your planner now , if you see any potential chunks of time when you will be alone plan ahead ,try a new meeting , phone a friend or relative with children , offer to sit them for a few hours ,you'll be a godsend and time with the children will refresh your outlook.While some time alone is a good thing too much alone time is not healthy. 10.) Savor the moment. Congradulations !!!! You have made it , you've come all this way. Get yourself something , you deserve the best Enjoy the thrill of your victory.Share it with someone special , spend it with your SELF.Simply , acknowlage it . This is your moment , you have earned it .,It doesnt matter if you have a year or 24 hours , your sober and no matter what happens next , This moment will always be exactly what is is now... Your moment to shine. This piece was originally submitted by Connie Carpenter, founder , Carpenter Coaching Services, Life Coach , who can be reached at carpentercoachingservices@msn.com, or visited on the web. Connie Carpenter wants you to know: I know the guilt and self-loathing that comes with being a woman in recovery-especially with a family depending on you for the day to day responsibilities a mom, housewife and woman are expected to perform. These are the insights I bring to my clients.my passion is specializing in personalized relapse prevention programs allowing the confidance to claim their lives. Here,Now.
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